Grave of the Fireflies

Probably this time I have shed my tears most after watching a movie called The Grave of the Fireflies. I love cartoons and animations so much and I do watch them too.But an animation movie could be so traumatic and emotional I didn't know before watching this movie.I do expose my teardrops if the movie is sensitive but that is a few...very few...may be my eyes just start getting wet.But this time they crossed their limit and fell continuously even after the movie ended. You will believe or not even now also my eyes are wet [I am re-watching the scenes and re-hearing the background scores].You may feel that "this girl is overreacting!!" But believe me if you watch this you too will feel the same I am. May be a little more or less.For the first time I rated a movie 10 in IMDB. You can feel even more if you have siblings.I did watch it with my didibhai... and yes we both were sobbing with our own and holding each other hand tight.

Seita and Setsuko at their good odd times

 The story is all about a 14 year old brother and his only tiny sister who have recently lost their parents in World War II attacks and the FIREFLIES.The story is about the love, care, responsibilities and duties of a brother who did everything possible to keep her sister safe. They were betrayed by their relatives and the society too [quite normal during crisis] but they had to be alive.They accepted the harsh truth with joy and happiness.They found their ray of hope to live more.They fought,fought and fought but the tragedy took place at the end which was pathetic and sensitive. For some fraction of time I didn't realize that it was an animation. It was so alive and felt like everything was happening right in front of my eyes and I could not help them.

few moments

Seita and Setsuko with their basic needs

Setsuko.. the little tiny Setsuko

Readers please watch this movie.




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Archive of memories

     Archive of memories 

Here I am blogging and writing which I thought was a sudden incident in my life before few years.But today I found something priceless.I found my old scrap book and old diary ( not daily one ).And I actually got the thing.Writing was not a sudden incident,it was a part of my life then too.Yes the difference is now I write something sensible and practical ( I should call it typing rather than calling it writing) and then I used to write something fairy and imaginary words..Yes time changes us and makes us much mature.Let's start to the feeling which I actually want to share now...

Today I was willing to see some old photographs and started browsing shelf.Suddenly I saw something lying beneath those albums...I pulled them up and saw that it was my scrap book which I made nearly about 9 years ago.Saddest part is that I thought that I lost it in my college hostel...I actually had no idea that it was with me in my home.It feels awesome actually when you find something valuable in an unexpected and uncertain way .

Scrap book and slams from diary

Radio Mirchi Diary

and guess what I found something more...God was wise enough towards me today to give me all happiness together.I found another one diary which I won in 2004 at Kolkata Book Fair from Radio Mirchi for participating in a on the spot RJ hunt ... I opened and found bundle of moments among which I could remember few and few actually got smudged in this busy life...

Do you know what is so special about that scrap book ?? It was totally made by me.. Cover,Pages,Picture frames and the Design of the scrap book...Everything was done by me...today I felt how much I used to be crazy at that time.It's not that now I am not...without having internet connection I used to collect all the information of my crush and muse.. I used to gather all the informations and pictures from here and there then used to stick them up on this scrap book...Best friend's picture,Best moments of that time and of course Greetings Cards from closest ones...Before 10-15 years there was a huge trend to give and take New Year Greetings Card.. Which I miss now-a-days...It's not in trend now... But definitely that fun was something different to cherish... today I found my craze and deeds for the serial Remix(Star One) and John Abraham...Mad me... ☺ I found out some sweet letters from Bidisha...few small paper gifts inside my scrap book like feathers,cards,pictures...And when I posted that on Facebook and tagged her,she did an awesome reply by sending me back something valuable which I gave her just before 10 years ago... So much nostalgic. Now what to say more..I had to share my joy with someone so I did... That's all I want to keep them inside my heart forever ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

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Oh !! Mother

                                                                            Oh !! Mother

" Mother ... (Ma) " who we can't define in anyway.. From childhood I have shared a great bonding with my mother.She was my first teacher and went on being like that throughout my school life..I was naughty enough to torture,annoy her every time..She has been my friend,philosopher and guide all over the years..But the tragedy happened when for the first time I went far away from her for 4 long years during my college days..Days and Sights she called me up to make me feel that she was all along with me ... Sometimes it happens that we,children find our mother's advice so annoying and boring as they always poke us and warn us for every thing..It happened and still sometimes happens with me too.. But the later time when We think and realize the fact we get them right.. Mother's are mothers..they can easily know our emotions,our feeling though we hide that from them..They laugh when we are happy, they cry when we are sad.. They are Mothers... the living Goddess of Earth ... I love you ma.

Oh !! Mother

I am writing you this poetic letter

to open up my bundle of thoughts

which I feel every time whether u r near or not

but can not express right in front ..

Thus this is the only way, I have found out

which actually can not come out of my mouth

you may feel surprised after reading this

I hope you will like it,but it's a humble request

NO tears please !!!

Twenty Three years and nine pre months

you have kept me beneath your shadow and your warmth

That is really hard to describe either by expression or by any terms...

Mother's are just another portrait of Goddess

Thus you were,you are and will be always..

From being the introducer to the Teacher

Every time I have got you as my guide,friend and philosopher..

I still remember my school days

when you used to manage every single duties

as a working woman and as an home maker in several ways..

Whomever I am today,

 is just your struggle and your shadow of  magical ray..

Oh !! mother

I still remember

the day when you first took me to school...

you were standing outside telling me to not cry

while they were taking me in .. away from you ...

I dwell upon the days when my exam results used to come out

I used to be scared and feared much to ask you again and again

"Ma What Will Happen ??? "

You were the one to hold my hands and smile at my face without showing the lines of doubt..

Hats off !! to you and your dedication

that you have been spending on me without any expectation

I fought with you and annoyed you over time to time

But Mother !!! you didn't bother

to come across and make me feel better..

I love the way you cuddle up with me

when I sleep too deep

can feel the way you call me up

with love and anguish ..

Oh!! mother
there are plenty of memories to gather

which will not end up here ..

All these are stitched in their own way

right bottom of my heart

which can never fade and never go apart..

I was your small girl 

would like to be the same forever...

Last words which I would like to share

with the strike of  a soft touch 
that I LOVE YOU so much 

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Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage

                                                      Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage


Marriage ... A rituals to live with your life partner,love,better half and your soul mate..These terms are often we get in dictionary and on net ... But the thing is how to find it in real life ??? By doing Love marriage or Arranged marriage ?? This topic is just so perfect for debate and surely can cross the time siren too ... In this case experience matters most I guess ... Experienced one can give the proper ray of light into this matter.. Whether it is love marriage or arranged one ...So here I am going to portrait on my point of view.

The  features of  both the marriages are stated below....

Love marriage :  1) Bride and Groom doesn't have any expectations from each other before marriage 
                               as they see each other for long time or a very long time.
     
                           2) Bride -Groom plan everything then both parents meet .. That's the time for high 
                                peak of  tension

                           3) No scene to compromise from both sides as they know each other well and use to     
                              be in love from before and  then plan to marry.

                          4) Parental demands are not to be given much importance.

                          
Arranged marriage :  1) Bride and Groom both have huge expected criterias about their better    
                                       half before marriage..such as he/she must be like this,must have this or that 
                                       habit and blah blah blah !!!

                                  2)Families and parents plan everything first and then bride and groom meet 
                                     with some huge formalities.
                             
                                  3)Compromise and Adjustments are the main two keys in arranged marriage.

                                  4)Family demands play a pivotal role in arranged marriage..

This was just a rough sketch of the scenario which we see actually,basically I feel.But I think any relationship must have few responsibilities and so in marriages also ... The topic is love marriage or arranged marriage ... But both the marriages can be successful if both partners value each other's emotions,morals and respect their particulars..Understanding is the primary key to this relationship..and the secondary one is compromising.. Both the persons need to compromise...with one hand clap does not sound well .. 

What I feel personally is ... When you love someone and plan to marry with that person,expectations,hopes and wishes touch the sky ..  gradually  it gets more  .. and practically post- marriage responsibilities are really more than pre-marriage responsibilities..If any partner fails to understand that then misunderstandings arise..and changes into dark clouds..and then rains..Girls always like to have attention care from their husband,if love marriage then definitely more.. but Guys who fails to understand this and fails to give the same to their partner..misunderstanding comes..Guys on the other hand want liberty and space ... when girlfriends turned  wives ask for some attention,guys get themselves loosing the space and all liberty... and thus we can see some un successful love marriages...But it really doesn't mean that love marriages do not do well..They do of course.. People who adjusts with the situations and cope up with all the difficulties they do prove that love marriages do success..

On the other hand when to say about arranged marriages ... the concept is quite strange to live with someone for whole life who you don't even know and the pre marriage rituals whether from meeting the alliance to few match mixing game ...really kind of  formal and awkward too from few point of view. ... But .. practically arranged marriages do get more successful than love marriages..I have read once that in one recent survey it has been seen that arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages..means less divorce prone. But obviously not with any mismatch....In arranged marriage both the people get to know each other gradually.. Here family plays very important role .... And Love ?? obviously love happens in arranged marriage... but after marriage... In India arranged marriages are one kind of tradition though now changing a bit..But we all have seen our parents,relatives and our ancestors too to have lived happily  in arranged marriage... Yes arranged marriage do take time for both to know and to get comfortable with..But love happens... As there are no need to be any kind of Love related expectations and wishes ... when any one does so...other feels overwhelmed...and that's how love grows ... 

So in short....

Love marriage ----  Love and then marriage..
Arranged marriage ---- Marriage and then love..
&
about success in marriage ...understanding,compromising,adjusting and at last but not the least Love Care and Luck matter most...

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Men , Women and their Demands

                                                Men , Women and their Demands ......

Very much controversial and much to think about .... I guess this is the only issue for which relationship breaks....Expectations..the only thing which comes in various ways...A woman expects much from her Man,if Man fails then relationship takes a different turn...and same for Men too
.... So the question is What do these two special creatures of God expect from each other ??

I am going to write on the basis of what I have seen in my life,my experience,and few incidents of my friend's life..

On the basis of  attraction , relation I am going to pen about the views of boys and gals.....

If a boy likes a girl.....

----- What does a boy do if he starts liking a girl madly ??? First he fails to stop staring at that girl consciously or unconsciously which helps that girl to understand that he is totally Fida on her..Men can't hide their emotions.What they feel they show it off ..means they can't control...

      What does a girl do if she gets to know that someone really likes her ??? She enjoys the matter.Though she doesn't really want to show it off...in few incidents she loves to use that boy too and at last when the boy asks a proposal she simply rejects...heart breaks...and few "Devdas"es take birth...


If a girl likes a boy....

------ She will try to hint the boy she likes without losing her dignity..she definitely won't show her craze for him...but yes she would love to give few indications...which sometimes guys do understand sometimes not..and heart break sounds come silently..A girl always would love to get the proposal but not to propose..If she loves someone also she wants that boy to propose first.... that's typical girl's attitude..But yes few are still exceptions... 



What do Men think about Girls ???


 Men think that girls are born dumb... It's kind of Male Ego too...if his lady is too intelligent also,he will surely try to show her as dumb and stupid...I Don't get this point actually....they pretend girls as the biggest mistake of God for few annoying features .. and yes they think Women as root cause of any kind of problem.... Though without Women they can't survive... but still they think these .... Very common...


What do Women think about Guys???

Now Women have a severe nightmare of loosing her man.. the common doubt and fear about his character..Women think always that Men are Flirt by nature...which they can't digest..If the guy is not fond of some other girl also,she will try to prove with every possible ways that he is not loving her more and mingling with some one else..... Now that's creepy....this doubtful nature of women kind really suffers a relationship...

                        


Definition of Love according to Men and Women ...

Love .... Men define love more physically than Women do...For them love can be expressed more physically than emotionally...which Girls do feel quite weird and misunderstandings arise...on the other hand ..Women love emotionally rather than loving to get much closer with  the boy she loves...She loves cuddly,cute love stories,gifts,romantic dinners to show her love to her partners...She expects the same too from him......But these all things turn into stupidity for boys... Men get them really bad.. Gifts,cards,pampering and all are the true turn offs for Guys... So the word expectations kill the feelings.... Alas. !!! really both the creatures are from different planet... a Woman wants to be treated like a princess by her Man and a Man wants to be treated like a kid by her partner... Women tries to find all the qualities which their father has in Men and Men try to find the features which their mother has in Women... So different..

But those who can cope up with all these demands and nature of each other , can have a better relationship.... With one hand clap do not sound... From both sides the proper sacrifices,compromises are to be done.. And yes those who says.. "We should not expect" are wrong..Because if  anyone is in love,expectations come automatically and  for both Men and Women those expectations should be valued properly to keep a relationship healthy...

                        

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Love

                                                               Love

" LOVE"..a lovely word in world I can say... And very common though ..  Think friends if the name "love" would not be "love" then ?? ;) sorry for cracking jokes over here..

Let's write about "What is Love" ???

.......

For me Love is the world's beautiful feeling.. love is about caring for someone,love is - to get worried for someone ,Love is - to give all the happiness , taking all the sorrows , love is - to sacrifice , love is - to forgive , love is - to respect , love is - to support , love is - to miss someone when not with you...

Love is mother's care to her children , Father's advice to his children , Love is a brother-sister fight,Love is fighting for dresses between sisters ,love is a sweet-tight hug from lover,love is to disturb and tease friends ..

Love is - to give surprise to see a little smile on your loved one's face.
Love is - to cook and feed by your own hands to whom you love.
Love is - to have fun together.
Love is - to ask your mother for a sleep on her lap.
Love is - to demand something from you father.
Love is - to make laugh when your friend is sad.
Love is - to hold hands when your loved person is tensed and scared for something.
Love is - to make your lover jealous.
Love is - a sweet kiss on your forehead from your husband before sleep.
Love is - about the tears which comes out when your sister gets married and goes away.
Love is - to see your lover while he/she sleeps.
Love is - to respect parents,stand beside them when they need you at their old age.
Love is - LOVE...

     

                                                                                                                  ©Debarati Datta