Saturday 14 June 2014

Virginity - Well that's not a certificate !!

First of all would love to thank Anmol Rawat for posting such a topic which may appear as a sin .. But honestly I loved it when I got the notification.



Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take?

Then my answer is simply YES .. I agree with you Anmol..

Premarital Sex has been a sin or curse in Indian Society since long time. People are changing, moving forward, gaining so much of exposure to knowledge and openness but still in this point most of us, the Indians just back off the idea of considering VIRGINITY as a moderate consideration. If a girl or woman indulge herself in any kind of premarital sexual activity, it's a sin and simply people start having gossips about her character. This is so well seen and well known too isn't it ?


Now my point is when a girl gets raped,she loses her virginity too, then does that imply that she is bad or carrying a sluttish character ? If a girl gets divorced then there lies 95% possibility that the girl is not a virgin.. so in that case also does it imply that she is not having a so called good character. Okay let's say about the prostitutes... [I do respect them a lot.. because they all come under different circumstances and sacrifice a ton to earn their bread].. Of course they are not virgin. But does that mean that they don't have a good heart ? Sex is not a sin.. and indulging into it should not be considered as that bad. Everyone is different, everyone may have some point to have it... but losing virginity is just not a sin.. I just feel pity for us, the Women... I wish anyone could ask Men for their Virginity certificate ... Gawd.. us .... !! How many bachelor men would love to marry a raped victim?? How many bachelor men would love to love a prostitute? How many bachelor men would love to make a divorcee as his first wife? - Very few. There are always exceptions for everything I know. But the fact is very true ... We may feel sorry for them but can not accept the way they are. In real manner if we think, we can never find them as guilty. 


Character must be certified by heart and soul a person carry .. Body is just the shell of our soul. Make your soul beautiful and open.. Body has an end and it leaves the earth but soul can never leave its last breath..  So respect women and think twice before judging her character. 











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20 comments:

  1. Good one !
    http://www.ananyatales.com/

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  2. Short post that said it all :)

    Loved the last three lines so much.

    The pleasure is mine. I know people think of such topics as sin but I'm glad some people like you are taking it up and shedding some awareness to the readers with such awesome posts.

    Thank you for deciding to post on the topic :)

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    1. Hello Anmol !! it's a pleasure for me to get a comment from the topic owner.. You read it liked it and I am feeling so good. Thanks again for upbringing such a topic. Thanks a lot :)

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  3. I think you have gone a little off topic, I think the topic is about the people who choose to lose virginity by their own free choice. I don't think there is any problem in marrying a rape survivor.

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    1. No .. Gaurav ... I didn't think like that.. Anyways whatever I felt I wrote.. and even I guess the original poster of the topic too thinks the same. But I felt good to hear that you think there is not problem in marrying a rape survivor.. This was really human !! :) Thanks for posting comment.. Have a good day

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  4. Agree, Debarati :) We cannot & must not judge before knowing the true story/reasons.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your thought too Anita... Yes every person must have some reasons ...

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  5. Well written Debarati.. Since yesterday I have been commenting highlighting about those girls who fall in love, sleep with a man, get cheated.. Doesn't that qualify as rape?? yes its not physically forced but mentally manipulated.. so what about those girls?? what about divorces?? we all know in Indian society widows and divorced women find it hard for re marriage... because most of the men don't want any used material.. they want a fresh one.. Have seen these kind of incidents very closely... It is a sad situation.. But if it is only about having sex for fun with multiple men and moving on, then definitely I believe we are not following western culture.. that is where we are rooted and that makes us different from others...

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    1. Thank you very much... Shruthi ... Yes ... This is very sad but truth.. This society is Male dominated and Men are always willing to manipulate women in every way. And this is one great excuse to play with a girl's self respect by saying that Sorry!! You are not a virgin. Who is going to see whether the same man has slept with many or not ? The thing is going like this.... and don't know when will this phenomenon of society will fade out ? It's like in every steps we are being humiliated !!

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  6. I do have a lot of respect for the prostitutes... and many of them are good human beings...have a nice heart ..( one of my friends works for a NGO and I've seen and talked to some of them ....their stories will give you a shiver and surely will bring tears in your eyes ) ...

    Well , I've commented a bit off-topic but just couldn't help it seeing that line in your post...

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    1. Hi Maniparna.. It's a pleasure to see your comment again on my blogpost. Yes most of them are innocent and do their job. They too want to have happiness, family, love from husband and care from their partner. But unfortunately they are always treated inhumanly and treated in cheap way. They cry, they weep but hardly anyone of us listen to them. They are always abandoned from the white light of any city. I just feel so sorry for them. and as you said they too have story, heart and emotion ..

      Thanks for sharing your thought !!

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  7. Beautifully put . A different angle all together . Worth discussing ! Congratulations on a beautiful post !

    http://www.sweetsharing.com/an-open-letter-to-the-righteous-guy-seeking-a-virgin-girl/

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    1. Hi Garima .. I read your post yesterday only.. It was fabulous.. So good ... Even I voted too. And thank you that you stopped by and read my post. It's an honor altogether !!

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  8. well no problem in marrying a divorcee..:-)

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  9. hi debarati....
    its an amazing feeling altogether to see ur blog.feeling...for those women who are always deprived from society..our society itself is a curse... we all people have made it.. until n unless we change our mind soiciety will never change...where women are treated as a commodity .where women has got no respect,that society ,that nation has no development...

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  10. Hi Debarati, Nice Post.....But I wana say that, these days the male mentality mostly in metros are getting change…..We don’t think much about the virginity and the ex-relations all we want good and healthy relations which long last. Even there are people want to marry divorcee and the widow and wants to give them a new life . (Proud to say that I’m the one and mentioned the same on matrimonial sites  )
    Hmm….. it’s also true that we still need to bring change in our society because vast majority of people thinks virginity is the only proof of a good character.
    Think Positive !!! Time is changing and we are changing….


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    1. Wow it was great to listen such a statement !! Thanks for sharing your view. And yes Respect for that... Good to have your comment over my post

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