Saturday 30 June 2012

A Date with The Night

                                                                 A Date with The Night

A date with the night.... yes.... only me and the dark night.. we both are together.... now spending a quality time ..What could be so relaxing other than this ???me,the girly girl and him,the handsome night... Me, enjoying him and the dark handsome night is just giving me the opportunity to feel him...there are no worries, no deep thoughts except being myself... Enough space between us to make us feel special..He is all around me.... embracing me from all the sides....Like other so called dates there is something ,with which we can easily move few steps right now.. Only me and you..... No expectations from each other,no demands...you are just a miracle to me... With you I just want to be everyday... Though it's not at all first date of us... But today I am feeling so special with you....Watching at you for long time is just magical.. and you don't speak to me also..I feel shy sometimes.. Just want to be with you always..Don't know when will I get to spend few hush hush times with you again ??? just want to say that You are lyrically beautiful...and I will owe you for this lovely date ever..



Friday 22 June 2012

In Search of Happiness...

           In search of Happiness...


" Happiness "... the 'most wantedword we can say as we all human being do everything for finding this...We work hard for money,money to live well,to be happy..But as the days are passing by I find people forgetting to smile..People are becoming so mechanical , professional day by day.. 


Money and Happiness .... We People think these  two words are quite inter-dependent .. But is it correct ?? For happiness do we need money always ?? We human being are in race of earning money...and forgetting all the possible ways to bring one little smile to our face.For us we think that if we earn money more then we can be the happiest creature in the world...But expectations do not die... and satisfaction is the another thing which we have left somewhere so long before...There is no level of satisfaction now-a-days for maximum people...People having good economic status can be found frustrated,sitting in bars,having loads of drinks to forget their stressful life and obviously in search of happiness..Few need counsellor too.. Sad..But have you ever thought of the living style of animals .. ??? I know it's kind of weird thought but I have always thought about this.. All the creatures excluding Human Beings... live their life without money..Yes definitely the life they lead is really wild and have no proper style but still I find them so relaxed and happy.. They don't even know What is MONEY called ??? for them that's just a piece of paper.. nothing else..They too have family [depends upon the kind of animal..few have habit of staying together in a group..]They too have emotions,feelings...they too can be happy..they too can  be sad...But it's impossible to see them being frustrated..So what do they do for healing their frustration ??? Don't know...

I really don't have idea how you reader will react after reading this ??? But let's see some another scenario... for happiness money is not needed all the time ... Have you people ever gone to any slum area during any festival times ??? They too celebrate that festival in their own way..or consider a simple scene at roadside footpaths where Children plays Gilli Danda,and few other sports for which they may not have the required equipments... or etc.. scenes which we commonly ignore...But in every scene the common thing you can notice is Happiness...& What can actually please your mind do you know ?? The 1000 volt smiles on their face.. That smile which comes from innermost corner of their heart are worth million bucks... or I can say it priceless..yes that's better...PRICELESS only... but we the urban citizens,much modernized have everything but still we suffer from the pain of not being happy... How many people do always keep smile on their face forgetting all their sorrows ??? hardly few.. Happiness doesn't come to us by its own..But we need to find them..In every moment their is key of happiness but hardly few find it ..Mind should be broad enough to find and accept happiness in sorrows... Yes I do believe tragedy happens in Life..and life is not at all a bed of roses.. if there is no DOWNs then how can we expect UPs to arrive ?? but holding the sorrows for long will not heal the pain but will make us sad and frustrated more... so what's the need ?? Useless.. Every moment in life is precious... In this case I remember always a movie name "Kal Ho Naa Ho" ... really the " Right Now" moment never comes back in this Universe...think deeply..look at your watch and the today's date.. Will it come again ?? NO..Then why to waste this valuable,precious moment by thinking all the sorrows..But we the human being forget this..I am writing this .. but sometimes I too forget this.. but not for long..I am not praising myself..But I am God gifted to have smile on my face always .. at least I try to maintain it always..have heard from someone elder once...That never run behind money..Do your work happily whatever the kind of job is .... one day money will run behind you... .. and in childhood watched one cartoon "Cinderella" of which one dialogue still is in my mind... Cinderella  was saying that "I don't feel bad that I do all these kind of stuffs.Because I find happiness in all these work.." ... 



Be open an broad to accept all the challenges that come through your whole life..But don't forget to keep smile on you face...Happiness will find it's own way to touch your mind....

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Thursday 21 June 2012

Men , Women and their Demands

                                                Men , Women and their Demands ......


Very much controversial and much to think about .... I guess this is the only issue for which relationship breaks....Expectations..the only thing which comes in various ways...A woman expects much from her Man,if Man fails then relationship takes a different turn...and same for Men too
.... So the question is What do these two special creatures of God expect from each other ??

I am going to write on the basis of what I have seen in my life,my experience,and few incidents of my friend's life..

On the basis of  attraction , relation I am going to pen about the views of boys and gals.....


If a boy likes a girl.....

----- What does a boy do if he starts liking a girl madly ??? First he fails to stop staring at that girl consciously or unconsciously which helps that girl to understand that he is totally Fida on her..Men can't hide their emotions.What they feel they show it off ..means they can't control...

      What does a girl do if she gets to know that someone really likes her ??? She enjoys the matter.Though she doesn't really want to show it off...in few incidents she loves to use that boy too and at last when the boy asks a proposal she simply rejects...heart breaks...and few "Devdas"es take birth...


If a girl likes a boy....

------ She will try to hint the boy she likes without losing her dignity..she definitely won't show her craze for him...but yes she would love to give few indications...which sometimes guys do understand sometimes not..and heart break sounds come silently..A girl always would love to get the proposal but not to propose..If she loves someone also she wants that boy to propose first.... that's typical girl's attitude..But yes few are still exceptions... 



What do Men think about Girls ???


 Men think that girls are born dumb... It's kind of Male Ego too...if his lady is too intelligent also,he will surely try to show her as dumb and stupid...I Don't get this point actually....they pretend girls as the biggest mistake of God for few annoying features .. and yes they think Women as root cause of any kind of problem.... Though without Women they can't survive... but still they think these .... Very common...


What do Women think about Guys???

Now Women have a severe nightmare of loosing her man.. the common doubt and fear about his character..Women think always that Men are Flirt by nature...which they can't digest..If the guy is not fond of some other girl also,she will try to prove with every possible ways that he is not loving her more and mingling with some one else..... Now that's creepy....this doubtful nature of women kind really suffers a relationship...

                        


Definition of Love according to Men and Women ...

Love .... Men define love more physically than Women do...For them love can be expressed more physically than emotionally...which Girls do feel quite weird and misunderstandings arise...on the other hand ..Women love emotionally rather than loving to get much closer with  the boy she loves...She loves cuddly,cute love stories,gifts,romantic dinners to show her love to her partners...She expects the same too from him......But these all things turn into stupidity for boys... Men get them really bad.. Gifts,cards,pampering and all are the true turn offs for Guys... So the word expectations kill the feelings.... Alas. !!! really both the creatures are from different planet... a Woman wants to be treated like a princess by her Man and a Man wants to be treated like a kid by her partner... Women tries to find all the qualities which their father has in Men and Men try to find the features which their mother has in Women... So different..

But those who can cope up with all these demands and nature of each other , can have a better relationship.... With one hand clap do not sound... From both sides the proper sacrifices,compromises are to be done.. And yes those who says.. "We should not expect" are wrong..Because if  anyone is in love,expectations come automatically and  for both Men and Women those expectations should be valued properly to keep a relationship healthy...



                        

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Wednesday 20 June 2012

Journey ... from Princess to Mrs..& so on

                                                  Journey ... from Princess to Mrs..& so on

I hope after reading this title you guys have understood what I am going to write about... Yes I am going to pen about the transformation from girlhood to mrs.hood and then motherhood and so on...I am a girl ..though I am spending my girlhood now,but yes after few years definitely have to pass through these stages of responsibilities..I am writing this for the girl kind..Not specific with anyone.

"As Princess"

Let's start from the beginning... A girl is born.a little princess to her father..to her brother..and obviously to her mother. lives in her own world...highly pampered. no responsibilities..does whatever she wants to do..an independent butterfly..I am not saying that this is so much applicable for all the girls in this world..Because still few unfortunate girl foetus doesn't get the chance to see the world..[ Let's not see this from negative point of view..and talk about the goodies..] I have seen that a girl if not much pampered also,is like princess for her parents especially to her father...For a Father,his daughter is like a doll with whom he would love to play,spend time for long,make her up as he wants..I have experienced this and still experiencing..all father's have the same characteristics ..They are Caring,loving,Possessive  and yes a father can't tolerate tears on his daughter's eyes...For  hmmm !!! I am becoming emotional and yes getting distracted quite...
                                  


"As Girlfriend"

As she grows up and starts to have feelings for someone special with whom she starts building her dreams to be with , learns to compromise,to adjust,to forgive,to understand few responsibilities..She learns to love newly.. starts finding a true definition of love.. and yes of course starts thinking herself as mature enough....



"As Better Half"

For every girl this time is the most crucial time and most heart touching and of much responsibilities too.Within a fraction of second a girl leaves her old identity with which she grew up until her marriage.. [by adapting a new surname].. and the time she leaves her father's den is most heart touching..She goes to another world,quite unknown and  yes from that time she is Mrs.XYZ.. She forgets her home of 23 to 26 years..and adopts her hubby's home as her own.. calls his mother as Ma,father as Papa and so on...Few girls are lucky enough to be gifted with sweet in-laws and few do not..The girl is mature now to adjust with every  circumstances ,to compromise with every problems,to overcome from every obstacles and so on.. Each and every step she has to learn and she has to compromise...Maximum girls compromises their wishes,wills, in dependency and learn to make everyone happy in her home.. She becomes the key of the responsibilities....




"As Mother"

Every woman should be thankful to God for gifting this most unique role to play in this Universe...Motherhood...Best part of being a Woman..Its so emotional to think and feel..For nine months long a mother carries her baby...Biggest responsibility which one can have is to be a mother.. She tolerates all the pain for the well being of the child..the emotional attachment towards her kids can't be shorten  if the child grows up enough too... She can do anything for her child..She can go desperate also to protect her baby..  Mother, the word itself is so divine and pure... Mother's love and care can't be compared to anyone in this Galaxy ever..She loves her babies,protects her babies till she last breaths in ....




Could write this much... I guess this blog space is too short to write all thoughts.. The motherhood can't be described..It is to feel only..Highly grateful to God for blessing me with a life of Girl .. I am proud to be a woman..... so telling all girls also to enjoy womanhood.. 

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Tuesday 19 June 2012

The language of Music and my love towards it ...

                                                  The Language of Music and my love towards it  ...

 "Music has it's own language " .. And I am thankful to god for gifting me that power to recognize that language..

Music,the magical creation of God which just makes me to go deep...deep..deeper into it.I really don't remember the time when did I first fall in love with music.. Definately childhood..But yes as the days are passing by and I m growing little older , I can feel all kind of music in a different way with different emotions..I guess that's what we call as maturity..

My connection with Music started from Childhood when I used to see my mother and sister playing Harmonium and singing classical ... But actually never got interested to learn music technically..It's not that didn't try to learn Sa Re Ga Ma Pa... and playing it on harmonium but not too deeply..

From childhood I have seen my mother listeing to old hindi classicals,bengali classicals including Rabindra Sangeet,Nazrul geet and gazhals on the other side..She is just a true music lover from heart.. Still now I notice the same..When I was a kid she used to tell me and my sister about the Indian music and it's history.... And obviously getting the title of " music lover " is kind of "Genetic effect" too...

Music ... heals my pain .... any kind of music and it's beats,rythms just touch my mind..I don't believe in genre of music... I love to listen all kind of music .... the language of that song doesn't matter ... As already I have mentioned I think music has it's own language which expresses it's emotions and feelings itself...

I have got my love towards Indian music from my mother.But love towards Western music is from my cousin brother and my sister.. It was kind of influence .. Whether it's Rock,Pop,Soft romantic or country songs .. Just need the proper beat to make me gaga for that song ..

Now I will write my feelings towards different genres of music ...

Indian Classicals
Indian Classicals musics are like feeling speed and the temptation of that music..when Different Taals,Raags are being played together .I feel like closing my eyes and give the proper dance steps with that beats .. or if it's kind of Bandish of tabla or any kind of musical instrument then better to close your eyes and get lost into the world of Music untill it starts to goosebump....I remember the songs "Mile Sur Mile Tumhara " and "Baje Sargam" which used to come in DD National long time ago...What an compilation of portraying Indian Classical Music.. I just love it..I have that video and really enjoy watching the video..

RabindraSangeet
Like other Bengalis,RabindraNathTagore's composition is closely attached to my emotions..It has a unique magic in it .. It can change the eternal meaning of an environment within a fraction of second...His compositions,music and the lyrics can touch everyone's heart....I wonder how could he feel all kind of emotions which one can have in his whole life ??.from childhood to the last stage of life ???... When I listen to RabindraSangeet ... it's kind of blessing then ..not having enough words to describe.

Old Hindi and Bengali Classics
Old Hindi Classics... includes Ghazals,Bollywood old romantic songs..I don't know why do I love these songs.. Old hindi classic songs are like eternal..They are so simple and heart touching that from hours to hours I can listen to this.In Childhood used to find it as damn boring.But as the time is passing by I am falling in love with these oldies...Another thing which attracts me towards it is an  emotional attachment.I can feel my mother whenever wherever I listen old melodies..As I have already told that Ma is true lover of music and she loves to listen old hits.. When I was far away from home I used to listen all these to feel Ma... Salil Chowdhury,Sachin Dev Barman,Hemant Kumar,Naushad,Laxmikant Pyaarelaal,R.D Burman etc music's and golden voices of Gita Dutt,Hemant Kumar,Lata ji,Asha ji,Manna Dey,Rafi ji and Kishore Kumar steal my heart always..Thanks to Masti Tv and Sony Mix for bringing up those golden days back again at night everyday.


Disco Deewane
Talking about Disco songs and how can I not mention the name of the Disco Queen ...Nazia Hassan..OMG !! I just love her songs.When I listen to her husky nasal rocking voice I can't stop myself from grooving and moving...Disco Deewane,Boom Boom and few other tracks of her and Zohaib Hassan. and yes For this also my ma is the influence..She is the one who told me about Nazia Hassan and her Aap jaisa koi mere zindagi main aye...Those disco pop songs will remain new to me always..

Folk songs
Folk songs are like the sweet fragnace of your culture,language and the real outcome of someone's true emotions,love whether for someone special or for the nature,the mother earth...Bengali Bhatiyali Songs,Palli Geetis can take me to the nature's world.It has pure "maatir taan" in it..The beats of Jhumur or Santhali or Baul music pushes me to match steps with those beats..and yes the folk songs of Assam "Bihu" are just lovly.How beautiful is that to see and to listen ... I just love folk songs.. In India each and every state is having their folk music and each folk music is having its different flavour..They all tell some story or expresses some feelings of their culture and makes themselves unique amongst other songs...


Rock and Pop songs
Want to have a party mood ??? then I just turn these songs on and get the party mood..That's all ... Dance with those rocking beats and groove to the music..For enjoying this one is the best medicine.


Soft Romantic Songs
When I am all alone ..I just listen to soft romantic numbers...switching off the lights,listening to these numbers and I forget my living world and get lost into the world of dreams and thoughts.. Somewhere,at Some beautiful place where I imagine myself sitting and enjoying the scenic beauty ...



 


Music is like Oxygen for me... I sleep Music,I eat Music,I drink Music and atlast but not the least I breathe Music..Thanks to God again for such a wonderful creation of art..

                                                                                                                           ©Debarati Datta


Saturday 16 June 2012

What Do I feel,When it rains

                                                        What Do I feel,When it rains 

This time I am feeling extremely relaxed ... Don't know why ?? I guess the weather is the only reason behind this..Personally I don't like monsoon much ... But if it starts raining with cool breezing air after a long sunny days then How does it feel ??? I just love it ... And now actually had no plan to write but this weather forced me to do so...But now I am all alone can't share my feelings with any one.. so started penning my thoughts,feelings and my mind.

I love the first muddy smell which comes from the ground .... ummmm can smell it,can feel it .. I feel like flying in the sky when it starts blowing the wind... Just standing in terrace or balcony and feel the air.. or dance with the nature's lyrical and musical beats all alone... Extremely relaxed..First rain ... and getting wet with the earth ..ummm awesome feeling... In Kolkata at this moment it's neither raining heavily nor it's a storming wind... It's the breezing romantic air which is refreshing my mind,my tiredness and all the depressions... 

When it rains heavily for one day,especially if it's nighttime , I just keep quite and go near window... Few drops come to my face and I just listen to the sound of rain .....It's like healing out all the pain ... And it becomes wonderful if I start playing slowly few romantic soothing tracks which suits the weather ... I love to listen the wind chimes's bell which goes gaga after it gets touch of the wind ....  Just a calm and quite place ..Where I can be all alone and feel the bliss of the nature... 





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Tuesday 12 June 2012

Women , Safety and Society....

                                           Women , Safety and Society....


In this 21st century it's hard and painful to hear and read the various news and articles about the women abusements, Eve-teasing  and rape cases.. After which really the question arises,Whether We, the Women are really safe or not ??

In this modern era when we start thinking that there is no difference between Men and Women according to their work field,Education and profession ,at that time the society forces us to believe that we are totally wrong.It hurts more to know people's mentality towards modern women and girls.At that time I really feel that just for the name sake India is modernizing and developing but actually not...

Recently,few days back read in newspaper that a housewife was being raped by a local Shuttle driver.That Woman was unknown to the city and hired the shuttle and meanwhile the driver took the vehicle towards some other place,raped and then at last  left her near the place where she actually wanted him to leave her before.Before few months another rape incident happened in Park Street,Kolkata which was also painful and yes definitely made a big news in India.I am not getting into that topic as it had become already much controversial and political..But if this is the present scenario then how can we leave home and move freely without any fear ??? The question arises again.. "India is independent,but the Women..are they ?? "....

India is developing and  independent democratic country.So all people have the right to live their life in their own way.Women are of no exceptions in that case too.If a girl wears short skirts,short pants and have fun with her friends anywhere ... will that mean that the girl is slut or of loose character ?? ( Obviously I am not saying about any professional work field where a typical dress code should be maintained..I feel according to the environment and situation we should dress but it doesn't mean that I am opposing to the real fact about which I am discussing here)....

Still in India there are many metro cities where the typical orthodox mentalities are being maintained traditionally.From my practical experiences I am writing it.During my college days when I was in Tamil Nadu I had to face the same problem in hostel.All my dear Tamil readers please don't mind but it is very difficult to digest when anyone teases you by calling " north Indian girls have already bad and cheap character" as we used to wear the dresses as per our wish  may be shorts,skirts and any kind of western outfits rather than wearing always salwar-kameez or any desi dress.. and a place where talking to boys were like a big mistake and had to pay fine for that was typical .. suppose any girl goes ahead and takes step to talk also,Girl has to be blamed not the boy.but why ??? It happened with me... I had few friends in college.Unaware of the fact I used to talk to them and later I got punishment and got to listen the slang about my character..I am neither saying about any culture and any particular state.. nor have wish to hurt anybody's sentiment.,But isn't it damn painful to listen in this 21st century where women are proving themselves in every field ?????

Eve teasing... very much common scenario in every corner of India .. Girl wears good or bad doesn't matter.. they must be teased .. How many girls,women are there who haven't been teased in their lifetime ?? and come on !!! age doesn't matter for the teasers.. if the women is of middle age also she can face this problem... not only teases, the sexual harassments(verbally or physically) in bus,train,trams,road anywhere not only embarrasses a woman but also insults a womanhood.. But if anyone takes the step to protest in strong manner she may have to face bigger problem later.. Yes sometimes doesn't happen and we see also people taking steps against this... but for how long ?? In India there have been such incidents occurring for daily basis..How to stop that ???

Sexual harassments are not only in roads or local areas ,it's tough to believe that in work places also women face the same problem..from the top level they get few embarrassing proposals via mails or messages as a promotional deal.. ?? What 's this ??? These are truly indigestible..Women who work  for night shifts,or come late from office have to travel through hired taxis or hired shuttle.. But few have got the result of trusting ... Then ??Will they stop working ??? Aren't these becoming as obstacles in their career field too ????and normally how do our so called society react if a girl returns home lately ?? People starts gossiping about what that girl does and all ...spreading rumours about the girl ..are common picture to be seen .... Common scene .. here also the girl is victim.. Why always Women ???

Mentality-- is the only medicine to cure the society from this disease. If a girl is getting teased or raped then the fault is not of that girl..nor of her dressing sense..The main reason behind this is the thinking and the way the rapists and teasers look into them..Those ladies,women or teenage girls are just the innocent victims of some sexual amusements and fun....Sad..... and yes I guess the amount of vulgar activities over the media and films and other entertainment source are also one of the biggest cause to influence the sexual thoughts and works as booster for the criminals .... 







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Sunday 10 June 2012

Pooh .... Frog.... Tortos ... Hum Tum

These all were done by me when I was at Chennai Chrompet  hostel.I used to do this for decorating my hostel room and stick these on wall .. All these are for same purpose and just have a look.









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