Even like the last topic of Indispire.. this one is also a much debated topic. But I am glad to get such topics in Indispire where I can run my pen a bit. Thanks Garima for this wonderful topic.
First I want to state that whatever I am going to write here are not meant to hurt anyone's personal emotion or sentiment. I will write as I will feel while penning down.
Live-in relationships were still a taboo before some years I guess. Even frankly speaking when I was a teen and used to listen anything about the term Live-In, even I used to show some kind of disappointments on my face. Preferably it was kind of unethical for me. But as the days, nights and years moved on, those thoughts of an immature teen just wiped off of my mind and today I don't believe that Living In without marriage is a taboo or sin of society. I think as people are moving forward, moving their places one from another sharing the apartments, the term Live-In has got so many definitions and people hailing from Gen-Y don't get this term as wrong as it used to be pretended.
So this was my straight and simple perceptual analysis of the topic.
Now I will try to dig some more into it.
People do debate over the topic "Which is better ?? having a live-in relationships or a straight marriage" ?? .. Please !! I am not here to point out the pros and cons of both sides.. like This has this and that has that or blah blah blah !! Isn't it so true that in both the cases actually two people lives in together... Isn't it most necessary to look after the togetherness both people share rather than ogling at how they are leading it? If two adults are deciding to move in together and share their moments of life, then what's wrong in that ? and whereas marriage is a social ritual and a function to put two people together for living in for the rest of the life. For me the aftermath is same, just the difference is social rituals. Marriage has been a legal tradition to keep a male and female together under a single roof and the modern civic people are choosing not to spare the rituals for staying together. Then what's wrong in it ?I don't find.. But how many of you have been known to this fact I don't know... In Hindu Mythology there have been 8 different types of marriage where the LIVE-IN has been defined as Gandharva Marriage ... Read here for more... So I guess the ancient culture of Hindu Society should not blame Live-in as a taboo right?
and then here comes a small paragraph from another side of my mind...
If two people are in love truly, madly and deeply and then decide to stay together, I don't find them guilty.Because nothing is wrong when you are in love [Remember Jab We Met- Geet's dialogue ..]. What matters is commitment. If there is no commitment in between the two then , whether it is Live-in or Marriage nothing lasts forever... So for me Live-in or Marriage, the fact that matters most is COMMITMENT towards your partner. Be truthful, faithful and honest towards the person you are living with... Stay happy, stay loved and stay blessed.
P.S Just one thought poked my mind... A girl and a boy can be roomies too.. Technically that one is also Living-in together.. Does that imply anything bad ?? This line was for those TABOO fanatic people !! :P Answer please
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Live-in or marriage? Which is the better option & why?
First I want to state that whatever I am going to write here are not meant to hurt anyone's personal emotion or sentiment. I will write as I will feel while penning down.
Live-in relationships were still a taboo before some years I guess. Even frankly speaking when I was a teen and used to listen anything about the term Live-In, even I used to show some kind of disappointments on my face. Preferably it was kind of unethical for me. But as the days, nights and years moved on, those thoughts of an immature teen just wiped off of my mind and today I don't believe that Living In without marriage is a taboo or sin of society. I think as people are moving forward, moving their places one from another sharing the apartments, the term Live-In has got so many definitions and people hailing from Gen-Y don't get this term as wrong as it used to be pretended.
So this was my straight and simple perceptual analysis of the topic.
Now I will try to dig some more into it.
People do debate over the topic "Which is better ?? having a live-in relationships or a straight marriage" ?? .. Please !! I am not here to point out the pros and cons of both sides.. like This has this and that has that or blah blah blah !! Isn't it so true that in both the cases actually two people lives in together... Isn't it most necessary to look after the togetherness both people share rather than ogling at how they are leading it? If two adults are deciding to move in together and share their moments of life, then what's wrong in that ? and whereas marriage is a social ritual and a function to put two people together for living in for the rest of the life. For me the aftermath is same, just the difference is social rituals. Marriage has been a legal tradition to keep a male and female together under a single roof and the modern civic people are choosing not to spare the rituals for staying together. Then what's wrong in it ?I don't find.. But how many of you have been known to this fact I don't know... In Hindu Mythology there have been 8 different types of marriage where the LIVE-IN has been defined as Gandharva Marriage ... Read here for more... So I guess the ancient culture of Hindu Society should not blame Live-in as a taboo right?
and then here comes a small paragraph from another side of my mind...
If two people are in love truly, madly and deeply and then decide to stay together, I don't find them guilty.Because nothing is wrong when you are in love [Remember Jab We Met- Geet's dialogue ..]. What matters is commitment. If there is no commitment in between the two then , whether it is Live-in or Marriage nothing lasts forever... So for me Live-in or Marriage, the fact that matters most is COMMITMENT towards your partner. Be truthful, faithful and honest towards the person you are living with... Stay happy, stay loved and stay blessed.
P.S Just one thought poked my mind... A girl and a boy can be roomies too.. Technically that one is also Living-in together.. Does that imply anything bad ?? This line was for those TABOO fanatic people !! :P Answer please
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| This movie redefined the term Living- In Friend, Philosopher and Guide what we look after in out partner. Isn't it ? |
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Honest post from your heart I believe :)
ReplyDeleteOne thing I would like to quote from your post "It's about commitment." True said. It's about commitment at the end of the day. If you are true from your heart and you truly love a person, both Live-In and Marriage will result in the same thing i.e. A perfect relation.
On the other hand, I believe Live-In in the true form is meant to know the person and see if you are compatible enough with that person to spend your entire life with him or her.
Good to read your healthy and innocent thoughts :)
Thank you Anmol :) Thank you very much :)
DeleteWhile answering a comment in my Virginity post, I gave the example of Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir, the philosopher-writer couple who never married but had a wonderful live-in relationship. They refused to marry because of their philosophical opposition to societal structures. In every other way, they were just like husband and wife. Live-in relationship should be based on certain understanding and mature acceptance of certain values and principles. Otherwise, it will be just another silly game adults play.
ReplyDeleteYes Sir .. the thing which matters is COMMITMENT.. And thanks for your example. Never knew about it !!!
DeleteThat Gandharva marriage....was amazing...:-D.....live in supported by religion...wonderful...:-)
ReplyDeleteThank you !! Yes it was already accepted in Myth !!
DeleteLoved the tittle of your post & of course the post . Tittle sums it up literally . Breaking a myth or two :) .
ReplyDeleteIt's always a pleasure to get comment from you and I am fortunate enough to get my post liked by the original Topic owner :) I am glad that you liked it :) Thanks again for awesome topic
DeleteSo true! Committment is what it's all about. The rest is about the rest of the world poking their nose into your affairs.
ReplyDeleteyes :) Commitment is all what is needed :) Thanks for reading my post
DeleteNice post... Can't differ with the views you have put down!!!
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