Oh !! Mother

                                                                            Oh !! Mother

" Mother ... (Ma) " who we can't define in anyway.. From childhood I have shared a great bonding with my mother.She was my first teacher and went on being like that throughout my school life..I was naughty enough to torture,annoy her every time..She has been my friend,philosopher and guide all over the years..But the tragedy happened when for the first time I went far away from her for 4 long years during my college days..Days and Sights she called me up to make me feel that she was all along with me ... Sometimes it happens that we,children find our mother's advice so annoying and boring as they always poke us and warn us for every thing..It happened and still sometimes happens with me too.. But the later time when We think and realize the fact we get them right.. Mother's are mothers..they can easily know our emotions,our feeling though we hide that from them..They laugh when we are happy, they cry when we are sad.. They are Mothers... the living Goddess of Earth ... I love you ma.

Oh !! Mother

I am writing you this poetic letter

to open up my bundle of thoughts

which I feel every time whether u r near or not

but can not express right in front ..

Thus this is the only way, I have found out

which actually can not come out of my mouth

you may feel surprised after reading this

I hope you will like it,but it's a humble request

NO tears please !!!

Twenty Three years and nine pre months

you have kept me beneath your shadow and your warmth

That is really hard to describe either by expression or by any terms...

Mother's are just another portrait of Goddess

Thus you were,you are and will be always..

From being the introducer to the Teacher

Every time I have got you as my guide,friend and philosopher..

I still remember my school days

when you used to manage every single duties

as a working woman and as an home maker in several ways..

Whomever I am today,

 is just your struggle and your shadow of  magical ray..

Oh !! mother

I still remember

the day when you first took me to school...

you were standing outside telling me to not cry

while they were taking me in .. away from you ...

I dwell upon the days when my exam results used to come out

I used to be scared and feared much to ask you again and again

"Ma What Will Happen ??? "

You were the one to hold my hands and smile at my face without showing the lines of doubt..

Hats off !! to you and your dedication

that you have been spending on me without any expectation

I fought with you and annoyed you over time to time

But Mother !!! you didn't bother

to come across and make me feel better..

I love the way you cuddle up with me

when I sleep too deep

can feel the way you call me up

with love and anguish ..

Oh!! mother
there are plenty of memories to gather

which will not end up here ..

All these are stitched in their own way

right bottom of my heart

which can never fade and never go apart..

I was your small girl 

would like to be the same forever...

Last words which I would like to share

with the strike of  a soft touch 
that I LOVE YOU so much 

                                                                                                                   ©Debarati Datta

The Magical Madhuri

                                                           The Magical Madhuri 


"Ding Dang Ding ... Ding Dang Ding Dang Ding Dang .... Ek Do Tin .... " and that's The Madhuri Dixit. 

Vast it is to describe her and to write about the ultimate muse of Mr.M.F Hussain..She can be described  in my way by just one line that is I just love her... Why my post title is "The Magical Madhuri " ?? Because I couldn't think of some other name or title other than this ... as this came automatically in my mind.. and obviously it's not the fault of my mind or my brain..Actually Madhuri Dixit--the name itself made me to do so..

Ahh !! I grew up watching Madhuri. Super hit Muqabla which was the only  program to play all Bollywood songs at that time, used to play always Madhuri's numbers...Whatever from Dhak Dhak Karne Laga,Ek Do Teen,Mera Piya Ghar,Chane ke Khet main,Choli ke piche,Sajan songs,Didi tera dewar and other Hum aapke hain kaun songs blah blah blah !!! getting tired of taking all the names....The whole 90's went like this only.I still remember me and my elder sister always used to copy her dance in front of mirror especially mera piya ghar and ek do teen most of the times and  yes tell me any girl name who loves dancing and didn't do the same ???I find very less people to dislike madhuri..Her aura,magic blows everyone's mind ...

When I was a kid didn't use to understand much about classical,didn't use to notice her expression which is priceless and which can not be described by words..As I started getting into classical dance and started knowing about perfection,hand mudras ,body gestures,eye movements and  especially getting totally into the character.. I simply started respecting her.. What I have learnt from her is that jaisa dance waise expression and totally dub jana hain bass !! I was amazed when she danced pure Kathak during her pregnancy with the heavy weighted ghaghra in Kahen Ched Ched Mohey ... and what an expression ... I think she can tell her feelings with only her facial expression.. no need to have a speech or hand gestures ... and of course her billion dollar smile is just so amazing ... 

For me she was the last typical Bollywood diva to dance and act in total filmy style..Her ada,latkas jhatkas were mind blowing.. I do watch Jhalak Dikhla Jaa just because of her ..I don't miss at all the dance moves of the week by her..She looks like just a calender art dancing in her own way..Saroj Khan's favorite Mrs.Nene keeps on mesmerizing all the audience just like the way she used to do before..Whenever I dance any dance number whether it is classical or creative whatever I always think first if Madhuri Dixit would have done this how could it be ??? and the same I draw in my mind and try to follow.I try to keep the perfect posture,the grace on face and the well finished hand gesture.. 

these above pictures are very less to expose her persona ..At last I really would like to say " main Madhuri Dixit banna chahti hu "

Happy Friendship Day

                       

                                                               Happy Friendship Day... 

                                                                                                    .... 5th August,2012

Umm... Friendship Day.. a day dedicated to friends .... Really had never celebrated it in such a manner... except tieng friendship band in hand..I became familiar with this idea when Kuch Kuch Hota Hain released.. I was a kid then ... So every year Friendship day starts with texting everyone and tagging in Facebook with few friendship posts.. Yesterday also it was going in same way..But yesterday something was so different and exciting.. It started in a very haphazard way and ended up with lots of fun .. Me and my friend Arunima  decided to watch Ice Age 4 first,that too morning show..But God had some other plan for us.. Due to transport problem could not catch the movie time of Ice Age 4..At last decided to watch Jism-2 ,knowingly it as worst movie of this week... Again surprise and tension...Thought Sunday was going to get wasted as so much troubles we were getting through .We didn't know that in multiplexes there was a rule to carry our age proof to watch that movie ..When saw the notice board we deliberately thought .." What kind of movie we are going to watch ?? that without age proof we won't be allowed ?? ughhhh " 

Now arranging our age proof was so much of fun .. It was nothing but Indian Railway Monthly card.. that too for me it was two years older..backdated one.. At last got the ticket and was ready to watch that horrible movie .... 

As the movie started we both started to pass comments and laugh in each and every scene... and What extra should I say about the movie ?? Movie was having a weak story-line and sunny's acting was too horrible to describe..But who cared for those...We just enjoyed the movie as much as possible ... And really Hopefully didn't watch Ice Age 4 else we would have been busy with the movie rather than enjoying ourselves .. and really for fun having a big gang is not necessary always .. 

                        ♫ ♫ ♫ ♫ ♫ Har Ek Friend Zaroori Hota Hain ♫ ♫ ♫ ♫ ♫

                                                                                                                  ©Debarati Datta

Bollywood says NO to Talent ???

                                         Bollywood says NO to Talent ???

                                                                       .....I am just writing about commercial side of Bollywood,not dedicating this post to Art film Industry.....

" Bollywood " ...The Hindi Film Industry of India..for 100 years it has been entertaining us..Sometimes made us sad,sometimes made us happy,sometimes made us feared and sometimes made us to move our legs with hit songs and bundled up with all kind of emotions for years and years..In different eras we could see different stars ....  Superstars,Megastars and Jewels of Bollywood ... whether in Acting,Dancing or Music field .. Bollywood is the place where Talent matters most.... oops!!! or Talent mattered most ...I really feel whether Talent is the only key to have success in Bollywood now-a-days ????

I wonder and start thinking when anyone asks me " who is your favorite actress now ?? "... though I don't take much time to think about the actors as from childhood have been watching the Khan era with few Kumars,Shettys and Khannas..These Bollywood heroes are static in their own way..But when it comes to actress or so called heroines .... I really take time to think because maximum I can find "Model Turned Actresses".... except few names in recent era like Vidya Balan ... As I told already with heroes and actors I don't find any issues as they are the same for last 15-20 years....But the actresses who are actually getting hypes and roles in the recent movies , do they have any of the proper talent which are needed ?? They have only one skill that is to show off their beach bodies and having a sexy seductive look throughout the whole cinema ... when that's time to deliver the dialogue and to give the proper expression for a particular scene that's all !!! Charm goes away somewhere to find movie's charm itself ...

From Zeenat Aman to Priyanka Chopra there have been many Beauty Queens who actually proved themselves by acquiring all the needed skills to stand in Bollywood ...  But as the days are moving on.. the more blunders are happening to Bollywood.. Unnecessary Hype and Fame are given to the wrong personalities ... Beauty and Sex appeal is what matter most in Bollywood when to select heroines... Whether it is Katrina,Deepika or any other new comers ... Though Deepika is doing better from before in the recent movies..But Katrina always amazes me ... How can some one be so Hit without having the proper acting skills and with having a dull expression keeping on face ??? and the time she dances...though she is trying her level best but still .... for how long we the audience have to tolerate those nonsense grooves and moves ??? Pandit Birju Maharaj's comment on Chikni Chameli was 100% correct.."Katrina ko nachna nahi ata,hilana ata hain " ..She just does blunder ... so the Barbie Doll image is working more .. ??? Another Hype is recently for Sunny Leon ..... I really don't understand Why Media is grooving with the name Sunny Leon ??? What  did she do that she easily got a chance to make a debut in Bollywood ??? So her talent is the porn star image ?? and another shocking scene was from the movie Rockstar.. Nargis Fakhri..Biggest blunder..While watching that fantastic movie was thinking that I could have done much better than her..Ranveer's emotion and the blinks on her eyes..uncountable..Just a kingfisher calender act and a big opportunity in Bollywood..Like this all  the models are simply gathering in Bollywood and doing the films where we can't even feel any emotions and get no way rather than bearing it throughout .... 

When I look back to Old Hindi Movies I can see the real divas,the real Queens of Bollywood .. Talent was the main factor to get a small role in Hindi Films...If I start penning those names of successful heroines really I will be tired enough .. From Nargis,Madhubala,Nutan,Vyajayantimala Bali,Wahida Rahman,Asha Parekh,Sharmila Tagore,Hema Malini,Jaya Bhaduri,Rekha and etc etc etc... really not able to write all the names at all.. Everyone at that time portrayed all the characters so uniquely that the audience of our age also don't get boredom to watch those movies..and in recent era Sridevi,Meenaxi,And at last Madhuri Dixit stood themselves with only Talent ...and common thing was the longitivity of their filmy career..But unfortunately in today's era like a "thandi hawa ka jhoka" few actresses arise and they just get invisible after sometimes only.. for me the last filmy Diva in Bollywood was Madhuri Dixit  .. She was just 10 on 10 ... What an expression,what a dance and acting also ... The real Diva ... 

" Old is Gold "....true for our generation..We can say yes old is really gold..But I do wonder whether our next generation will be able to say  the same for this Bollywood filmy era ??? Time will say...

                                                                                                                         ©Debarati Datta

Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage

                                                      Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage


Marriage ... A rituals to live with your life partner,love,better half and your soul mate..These terms are often we get in dictionary and on net ... But the thing is how to find it in real life ??? By doing Love marriage or Arranged marriage ?? This topic is just so perfect for debate and surely can cross the time siren too ... In this case experience matters most I guess ... Experienced one can give the proper ray of light into this matter.. Whether it is love marriage or arranged one ...So here I am going to portrait on my point of view.

The  features of  both the marriages are stated below....

Love marriage :  1) Bride and Groom doesn't have any expectations from each other before marriage 
                               as they see each other for long time or a very long time.
     
                           2) Bride -Groom plan everything then both parents meet .. That's the time for high 
                                peak of  tension

                           3) No scene to compromise from both sides as they know each other well and use to     
                              be in love from before and  then plan to marry.

                          4) Parental demands are not to be given much importance.

                          
Arranged marriage :  1) Bride and Groom both have huge expected criterias about their better    
                                       half before marriage..such as he/she must be like this,must have this or that 
                                       habit and blah blah blah !!!

                                  2)Families and parents plan everything first and then bride and groom meet 
                                     with some huge formalities.
                             
                                  3)Compromise and Adjustments are the main two keys in arranged marriage.

                                  4)Family demands play a pivotal role in arranged marriage..

This was just a rough sketch of the scenario which we see actually,basically I feel.But I think any relationship must have few responsibilities and so in marriages also ... The topic is love marriage or arranged marriage ... But both the marriages can be successful if both partners value each other's emotions,morals and respect their particulars..Understanding is the primary key to this relationship..and the secondary one is compromising.. Both the persons need to compromise...with one hand clap does not sound well .. 

What I feel personally is ... When you love someone and plan to marry with that person,expectations,hopes and wishes touch the sky ..  gradually  it gets more  .. and practically post- marriage responsibilities are really more than pre-marriage responsibilities..If any partner fails to understand that then misunderstandings arise..and changes into dark clouds..and then rains..Girls always like to have attention care from their husband,if love marriage then definitely more.. but Guys who fails to understand this and fails to give the same to their partner..misunderstanding comes..Guys on the other hand want liberty and space ... when girlfriends turned  wives ask for some attention,guys get themselves loosing the space and all liberty... and thus we can see some un successful love marriages...But it really doesn't mean that love marriages do not do well..They do of course.. People who adjusts with the situations and cope up with all the difficulties they do prove that love marriages do success..

On the other hand when to say about arranged marriages ... the concept is quite strange to live with someone for whole life who you don't even know and the pre marriage rituals whether from meeting the alliance to few match mixing game ...really kind of  formal and awkward too from few point of view. ... But .. practically arranged marriages do get more successful than love marriages..I have read once that in one recent survey it has been seen that arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages..means less divorce prone. But obviously not with any mismatch....In arranged marriage both the people get to know each other gradually.. Here family plays very important role .... And Love ?? obviously love happens in arranged marriage... but after marriage... In India arranged marriages are one kind of tradition though now changing a bit..But we all have seen our parents,relatives and our ancestors too to have lived happily  in arranged marriage... Yes arranged marriage do take time for both to know and to get comfortable with..But love happens... As there are no need to be any kind of Love related expectations and wishes ... when any one does so...other feels overwhelmed...and that's how love grows ... 

So in short....

Love marriage ----  Love and then marriage..
Arranged marriage ---- Marriage and then love..
&
about success in marriage ...understanding,compromising,adjusting and at last but not the least Love Care and Luck matter most...

                                                                                                                            © Debarati Datta